[joedris]

Tinker, I'm sorry, but I've read your thread 10 times and I don't have a clue as to what you're trying to say. Let's see if I can come close here. You messed with meth but quit that stuff with the exception of one relapse last year. You didn't mention any other drug abuse. Are you an drug addict? Probably not so long as you remain clean.

You have a history of alcohol problems with 2 DUIs. You also mention binge drinking in the past. You enjoy a cocktail or a glass of wine on occasion. Are you an alcoholic? Hard to say, that's a call you have to make yourself. What I don't understand is why asking questions in your AA meetings or alcohol classes would put you in jeopardy. One of the major objectives of attending meetings/classes is for you to determine if you are indeed an alcoholic. But with your history I'd suggest that you should consider not drinking anymore as alcohol is causing you some problems in your life.

Then you say you're in a 12 year relationship with a severe addict and want to find out what makes this ok for you. Huh? Why are you in a 12 year relationship with a severe addict who doesn't want help? Off the top, I'd say no, it isn't ok to be with this guy because he's a major threat to your recovery. He's burning bridges and you're he's still in your life. Why?

And please, it's not a sobriety process, it's a recovery process. Physical sobriety is merely abstaining from alcohol. Recovery also involves emotional sobriety and that's what keeps us from drinking/using. You learn emotional sobriety from working the 12 steps of AA. As I said, I'm not sure of the question, but I hope I've been of some help in my answer.