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huntsober · 10-26-2009, 01:08 PM

So while at a convention I bump into an old sponsee. He has 20 years I got 25. He moved on and so did I. We havent seen each other in 15 years. During the catch up and butt sniffing sessions I inform him I attend church and NA as well as AA. He attempts to explain to me how my program is clouded and my message is clouded. He has never attended more that 2 AA mgt in his life and does not attend church. During that convention he questions me and somewhat inspects my program with many questions and I answered tham with love and care.

Three months pass and I see him at another convention this past weekend…more of the same crap. Questioning and digging as to how and why I do my program the way I do my program. Then the straw breaks….He finds out that a sponsee of his as asked me to sponsor them….tension rises…I again let him question me as to how I sponsor people. He asked are you AA or NA or Religious?

He goes into length into his sponsorship family and “tree”. I explain that I sponsor 4 people and that any more than that becomes a question of effectiveness. More than that is more ego than helping. I also express that sponsor retreats have been seen by me to be more ego than spiritual. My sponsor believes the same…He says he lives in an apartment and has no tree. However we do network a lot…

I feel that NA enables me to use all areas of life to build my recovery program. It say responsible productive member of society. Not just NA but society as a whole. I must look farther and deeper in the world not just inside the bounds of NA. Meaning…I have friends that are not in NA, yea…I have a life that is full circle.

This guy only talks, visit, interacts and has NA friends and feels that I am leading others down the wrong path.

I have chosen to do what works for me and allow him to do the same. I also informed him that the questioning and inspection was over. In the event he had any questions about my attending other meetings that it was not something that I was willing to inform him about when he ask.

For the record, I also attend PTA, NRA, NWTF, Church and many professional associations. I do not discuss the NRA at church and I don’t discuss AA at the NWTF. So I am following the traditions. Sorry for the rant…but I was just wondering if anyone else had drank the kool aid of NA and placed themselves inside a NA prison.

10-26-2009, 01:08 PM	#1 (permalink)
huntsober Member Join Date: May 2009 Posts: 320	Feedback Please So while at a convention I bump into an old sponsee. He has 20 years I got 25. He moved on and so did I. We havent seen each other in 15 years. During the catch up and butt sniffing sessions I inform him I attend church and NA as well as AA. He attempts to explain to me how my program is clouded and my message is clouded. He has never attended more that 2 AA mgt in his life and does not attend church. During that convention he questions me and somewhat inspects my program with many questions and I answered tham with love and care. Three months pass and I see him at another convention this past weekend…more of the same crap. Questioning and digging as to how and why I do my program the way I do my program. Then the straw breaks….He finds out that a sponsee of his as asked me to sponsor them….tension rises…I again let him question me as to how I sponsor people. He asked are you AA or NA or Religious? He goes into length into his sponsorship family and “tree”. I explain that I sponsor 4 people and that any more than that becomes a question of effectiveness. More than that is more ego than helping. I also express that sponsor retreats have been seen by me to be more ego than spiritual. My sponsor believes the same…He says he lives in an apartment and has no tree. However we do network a lot… I feel that NA enables me to use all areas of life to build my recovery program. It say responsible productive member of society. Not just NA but society as a whole. I must look farther and deeper in the world not just inside the bounds of NA. Meaning…I have friends that are not in NA, yea…I have a life that is full circle. This guy only talks, visit, interacts and has NA friends and feels that I am leading others down the wrong path. I have chosen to do what works for me and allow him to do the same. I also informed him that the questioning and inspection was over. In the event he had any questions about my attending other meetings that it was not something that I was willing to inform him about when he ask. For the record, I also attend PTA, NRA, NWTF, Church and many professional associations. I do not discuss the NRA at church and I don’t discuss AA at the NWTF. So I am following the traditions. Sorry for the rant…but I was just wondering if anyone else had drank the kool aid of NA and placed themselves inside a NA prison. __________________