Hello, I'm pretty new to recovery. This time around I got 50 days clean today

. People always say I need to learn to love myself and figure out who I am before I start looking for a new girlfriend. How? I mean I love girls and being close to them, but I do no want it to mess with my sobriety. Also, this is hard because I get depressed a lot of the times and I'm thinking about going to the doctor for it. Is that considered a relapse? I'm going to get benzo's..