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Originally Posted by iawoings  can you all help me understand this?
i am new here and probably got off to a bad start as it were. i came here in anger with my current situation, sorry to anyone i upset or gave a bad first impression to.
i have started reading more and more about having had and alcoholic parent.
i guess what i wonder is, is this the reason as to why i am so terrified of being successful.
i am just getting into understanding and facing these issues.
other than here and books i have no idea were to start lol. |
This is a big one. I have a medallion in my pocket that says XIV, but I haven't really begun to get a handle on the self-sabotage thing -- so make yourself comfortable; this is a long ride.
I have a broken career similar to those described in this thread -- supposedly a lot of good skills (and at times, I make good money, but never for more than a few months or a year or two at a time). I sabotage my success, I sabotage my happiness, and I sabotage my judgment -- and then second-guess myself 'til the proverbial cows come home, for making these decisions!
I don't know why this happens. Getting some attention for success was, in my family, nothing to be afraid of -- my Dad was an eminent scientist, and I think he would like to have seen me follow in his footsteps. We didn't really have the classic success-sabotaging things going on... nonetheless, sabotage I do. It's as if I give myself one of these every so often:
So ya, this is a common issue with ACAs. Enjoy!
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