Hi there Barb
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Originally Posted by barb dwyer  ... I feel like I don't have a right to mention it. ... |
yeah, I know. I'm not sure where mine comes from. Maybe from my "toxic" childhood in an alcholic home. Maybe I'm just a little too proud, which is my way of covering up a bit of low self-esteem. Maybe a combination of things.
In any case, what I have learned is that being sick is not a "right". It's a misfortune. Some people have bigger misfortunes, some smaller. I got mine. I didn't ask for it, I don't want it, but I'm stuck with it.
I'm grateful that it's _all_ I have to deal with.
People ask my why I always have to be in bed early. Cuz I have a bad heart and I have the energy and stamina of a 90 year old. A lot of people don't get it. Why I have to take so many meds. Cuz my nerves are inflamed and it _hurts_ something wicked.
What works for me is to imagine that I have a 12yr old child with me. A little boy who's survived all the stuff I did, and _he_ has the same disease I have. Would I tell this little boy that he doesn't have a right to mention his pain, his fears?
Goodness no!!! I'd be defending him and taking extra good care of him.
It's one of my character defects, I can take care of others, but I am _terrible_ at taking care of me. So a counselor taught me that "turn it around" technique. Pretend I'm taking care of a 12 year old, and that way I'll take care of me in a round about way. Sounds kind silly but it works for me.
I don't know much about Fibro, but I do know it's an ugly, painful disease. As far as I'm concerned, you have every right to take care of your needs, your health, and your pain. Sure, other people have their own hardships, and they have a right too. We _all_ have a right to take care of ourselves, regardless of the details of our health.
Have a gentle (((( hug ))))) Barb, cuz I know it hurts.
Mike