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Quote: ((I have told him that as long as he is not drinking that I am even fine with him coming to my new house to see his girls and put them to bed any time he wants (unless I have other plans). I think this is big of me given the circumstances, but this is not acceptable to AH.))
How wonderfully short are some folks memories. When he was guzzling his grog and you let him know how unhappy you were and that it was unacceptable to you, he didn't give a rats for you or these suddenly important to him, children.
It takesa lot longer than a few weeks to get from suicidal alcoholic to capable and trustworthy dad, and it doesn't happen without a lot of work from him.
He has proved that he wasn't a reliable or much interested father in the past, now he has to satisfy you that he HAS got his act together, is reliable and can be trusted.
If my girls were that age, and their dad barely scraping the surface of recovery from alcohol and recent suicidal feelings, I would feel unable to even contemplate his having care of them until I was assured of his fitness for it.
Your lawyer needs to know what AH is asking for, and also hear your reasons for not agreeing to his requests. The most important priority here is the girls well being, and that must be safeguarded before anyone else's emotions or feelings.
God bless
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