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Originally Posted by Mandjas  I have found my thoughts today drifting to what good my mom has done. She adores my son, has pictures of him everyhwere, talks about him all the time, reads him stories, sits and watches his favourite movies with him, does sticker comics with him every week, cooks for him, washes is clothes, cleans up after him, he slept in her bed and they held hands until he went to sleep. And so on and so on. I am starting to pine for her and the good bits. Was she really that bad? Have I over reacted? |
You're doing it right. The recriminations you're starting to feel are not unusual. But I'd look at it this way: if your mom "wasn't really that bad," then she should have no trouble sucking it up and showing up sober, if she wants to see her grandson. Why is that such a big deal? If she can't do it, she's got a problem that needs to be looked at.
Stick to your boundaries -- you'll feel better!
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