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Old 10-21-2009, 01:07 PM   #3 (permalink)
Iwanttoheal
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I understand you're feeling insecure and unsure - you have changed your pattern of interacting with your parents. Possibly for the first time in your life you are taking charge and stating "how" it is going to be moving forward. These are big, scary steps.

It took me a long, long time to get to that point - I was 44. To me, that is an indication of how deep the dysfunction in my family of origin ran.

These feelings will pass, they will ease, give it time.

Trust your instincts - you came to make your decision over a period of time, you didn't just make a snap decision one morning. Your son appears to be confirming that your actions were the correct ones.

Maybe try a positive and negative list - to balance your list of positives, on the other side you can add parents arguing in front of your son, mother driving drunk with your son in the car, and so on.

Take care and look after yourself, IWThxxx
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