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takincareome · 10-21-2009, 11:10 AM

I don't know if I've done it on here, but I apologize for *everything.* I think it's part of being a people-pleaser, common to ACOAs, or so says my therapist. I am a big people-pleaser. I learned at a young age that everyone else, especially my mother, came first and my job was to take care of them and not myself. Consequently, I tend to put others before myself even today and apologize frequently.

I am working on this. My husband is helping me not to apologize so often (in a supportive way). But I think this is a common behavior among some of us.

10-21-2009, 11:10 AM	#4 (permalink)
takincareome Member Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Georgia (the state, not the country!) Posts: 108	I don't know if I've done it on here, but I apologize for everything. I think it's part of being a people-pleaser, common to ACOAs, or so says my therapist. I am a big people-pleaser. I learned at a young age that everyone else, especially my mother, came first and my job was to take care of them and not myself. Consequently, I tend to put others before myself even today and apologize frequently. I am working on this. My husband is helping me not to apologize so often (in a supportive way). But I think this is a common behavior among some of us.