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Originally Posted by whyamistaying  I read this and immediately I thought, "Okay, what is right now, you mean what if right now he stays like this forever?" You mean now meaning now. It is so very hard for me not to look into the future. Right this very minute...I don't know. Why is this so blasted hard for me to comprehend? |
Yes, that's it! (I think I understood what you said, lol) The only concrete information you have is what he is right now. So, base your decisions on that. In truth, people are much more apt to stay the same than they are to change. So, assuming that what you have now with him is all you will ever have, is it what you want?
It's much easier to take the "what-ifs" out of the decision making process. When you base your decisions and subsequent actions on the facts, it becomes much clearer and a lot less confusing.
I try to base my decisions on WHAT IS RIGHT NOW, knowing that IF things change, I can make a different decision later based on those facts.
Trying to decide what to do, considering all the possible, probable, likely, or unlikely outcomes will paralyze you.
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