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My sister went to jail twice and it did not stop her downward spiral. It only made her more angry and self-righteous, and she drank twice as much when she got out.
When you are ready to stop pouring love, patience, and tenderness down this bottomless pit, whyamistaying, you will leave. In the meantime, I suggest you do whatever will bring you closest to a life that you like waking up to. Stay, go, let him stay, make him go.....your choice here will not affect his drinking, it will only affect your happiness.
Do what you can to be happy, and to create a safe, happy life for your children. I would not want to see you back here twenty years from now wondering why oh why they turned into alcoholics/addicts or have so many emotional problems. Your actions now will have much to do with that outcome (not everything, but much.....remember, you are teaching them all of their coping skills right now)
Wishing you luck
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"Action is the antidote to despair." --Joan Baez
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