[ClayTheScribe]

I'm kind of stunned you all are 35 years old, this sounds very juvenile. He's a guy, he's found a woman he really likes, she's jealous about what you have as friends because she's so insecure, she lays down the law and says it's either me or her, he, not wanting to lose the relationship, feels he has to be an a$$hole to drive you away from him so you'll stop liking him. Guys are pretty predictable, but typically not this immature about it at 35, I would hope. That's just my guess about the situation. I'm not sure you want to continue a friendship with someone like this if he's willing to put a new girlfriend's jealousy before a 15-year-long friendship. Even if he does breakup with her, there's no telling he won't do the same thing in another relationship. Though I know it must be hard to deal with ending a friendship like that. And personally, I have several female friends and none of the people I've dated or been interested in have expressed jealousy. I kinda fail to see what he sees in someone with such insecurities, unless she's super hot and he's superficial.

Use your best judgment, just don't set yourself up to be hurt.

Good luck