[Sugah]

Amen, Missy.

This is a very nice follow up to "trust the process." Or "give yourself a break and trust the process."

In my own experience and in the experience of working with others, patience seems to be a big issue in early recovery. We want to be further along than we are. We want to jump ahead, fifteen minutes clean, and start making amends--long before we've done a thorough inventory and sorted out our motives. Or later in recovery, having a character defect, maybe even one we'd thought was long gone, rise up and screw up a day. We kick ourselves. Aren't we supposed to be better now??

I do it. I'll feel a surge of anger--and in a few breaths, I'm beating myself up for being angry. There's a process for dealing with it--prayer, inventory, more prayer, talking with a sponsor or another person in recovery--and acceptance that it's okay not to be perfect. I can give myself a break. Last I checked, I'm pretty far down on the list for a halo.

And the really cool part of giving ourselves a break and trusting the process (gee, I can't separate the two now!) is that, if we're transparent about it, we can let someone else see how we do it. You know...be a good example.

Another great topic.

Peace & Love,
Sugah