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Not sure if this counts/helps? My brother has been putting my family through this for the past 7 years, now my boyfriend who was sober for 1 year and a week recently relapsed and is in a program as of yet. I just drove 5 hours to visit him this past Saturday and he is coming home in two weeks. I have been attending Nar-anon meetings and they help a lot. I stopped worrying about what it WILL be like, what it COULD be like and what I HOPE it SHOULD be like and started focusing on what I want and how to keep me happy and healthy mentally. I think maybe focusing more on you and letting him fit in where/when you're ready and comfortable is something to think about? Marriage and kids and a dog are a bit advanced for my relationship "adventure" we are going through currently. But, my brother is flesh and blood and even if I walk away, he will always be my brother and just focusing on me and what I want has helped. Like the saying goes: You can not love someone until you love yourself... the same can be applied; you can not be comfortable in your relationships with others until you are comfortable in your own relationship with yourself... hope something helped?
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