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Hi Poetry
I've been there - the silence can be deafening.
As takeincareome said the game or the dance is changing.
It helped me to think of it as a power struggle, a tug-of-war. Even though you don't want to be, you are still engaged. You want to be able to drop your end of the rope and walk calmly away. You've dropped the rope but there's still a single thread that is attaching you. You've taken the required action and now your own emotions are betraying you. I've been there, keep strong, these feeling will pass.
I've been trying to think what worked for me and helped me to cut that final thread. For me, time and distance was the answer. I had to be ruthless with myself, any time I thought about my alcoholic family, I actively changed my thoughts. It helped to think about worse case scenarios and to realise that the world would not come to an end if I was not involved. Other people could cope with any crisis just fine, I was allowed not to be involved. For me, letting go took practise (I'm still practising).
Just give it time and believe that the anxiety will pass. It does get better and easier with time.
IWTHxxx
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