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McGowdog · 10-07-2009, 11:26 AM

I don't mean to get nosy or pressure you for details, but I'm having a hard time determining whether your pride was hurt (how you think others see you) and it's an ego thing... or if they did you wrong and/or caused you harm.

It doesn't matter. You can treat it the same way. When you say you've written it down, did you do the full 4th Step treatment?

Resentful at:......... The Cause:............................... Affects my:...........

fellow AA member. Told me to shut up and go outside. Self esteem; I am a step worker, Mr A.A.

.................................................. ............................Security; I need approval, respect

.................................................. ............................Ambition; I want accord, praise and adulation

.................................................. .....................Personal relations; lesser men do not threaten real men

My part? Some really nice lady was chairing the meeting and I interupted her when she was posing a topic. She said the 9th Step promises were the last in the book. I said, "What about the 10th step promises? There's all kinds of promises.

So I was right! How dare they question me... What about my attitude and how I interrupted the meeting?

I since met with this guy, made amends to him about my behavior to her first off... then my responding to and answering his threat to me. We hugged it out and he appologized for his part and agreed what really burned him was that I went after her... the nicest lady in A.A. and Alanon.

So very quickly, I got free of it. But I did not go to that meeting for over a week. Speaking of meeting, I'm off to it now.

Hope that helps a bit.

10-07-2009, 11:26 AM	#7 (permalink)
McGowdog Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Southern Colorado Posts: 1,174	I don't mean to get nosy or pressure you for details, but I'm having a hard time determining whether your pride was hurt (how you think others see you) and it's an ego thing... or if they did you wrong and/or caused you harm. It doesn't matter. You can treat it the same way. When you say you've written it down, did you do the full 4th Step treatment? Resentful at:......... The Cause:............................... Affects my:........... fellow AA member. Told me to shut up and go outside. Self esteem; I am a step worker, Mr A.A. .................................................. ............................Security; I need approval, respect .................................................. ............................Ambition; I want accord, praise and adulation .................................................. .....................Personal relations; lesser men do not threaten real men My part? Some really nice lady was chairing the meeting and I interupted her when she was posing a topic. She said the 9th Step promises were the last in the book. I said, "What about the 10th step promises? There's all kinds of promises. So I was right! How dare they question me... What about my attitude and how I interrupted the meeting? I since met with this guy, made amends to him about my behavior to her first off... then my responding to and answering his threat to me. We hugged it out and he appologized for his part and agreed what really burned him was that I went after her... the nicest lady in A.A. and Alanon. So very quickly, I got free of it. But I did not go to that meeting for over a week. Speaking of meeting, I'm off to it now. Hope that helps a bit.