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McGowdog · 10-06-2009, 11:01 AM

I think... with regards to the 9th Step anyway... somtimes slowly has to do with my own procrastination.

Get those amends done... I think is what it's saying. "You will be amazed before you are halfway through. Well you might be amazed after your first amend or you may not be amazed... until you finally face that dreaded last amend.

That's what happened to me last year. I refused to face the man who I hated. It was a coworker. I told my boss (brother) I would not work for that guy or under that guy anymore. He is not my manager. Then my brother went into this "There are no more managers anymore. There's only 7 of us left now and we all head up our own departments."

So me and this guy... avoided each other. There were a couple of times he came into my office asking me for help on something and that was fine. Or he'd come into my office and bring his attitude with him and I'd say, "Email me, write it down, but get out of my office now or I'm gonna rip your face off." This went on until a Christmas/New Year meeting. My brother set this meeting up and said we'd go no further until we made peace. I stood up... and made my amends to this man... with his wife present and my own mom and dad present... and he to me.

We've been fine ever since. I don't like him much, but I can tolerate him. That was a biggie. It was an amend that was over a month overdue. Sometimes slowly. That sucked and it was my own rage that blocked me from the SOTS.

10-06-2009, 11:01 AM	#3 (permalink)
McGowdog Member Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Southern Colorado Posts: 1,174	I think... with regards to the 9th Step anyway... somtimes slowly has to do with my own procrastination. Get those amends done... I think is what it's saying. "You will be amazed before you are halfway through. Well you might be amazed after your first amend or you may not be amazed... until you finally face that dreaded last amend. That's what happened to me last year. I refused to face the man who I hated. It was a coworker. I told my boss (brother) I would not work for that guy or under that guy anymore. He is not my manager. Then my brother went into this "There are no more managers anymore. There's only 7 of us left now and we all head up our own departments." So me and this guy... avoided each other. There were a couple of times he came into my office asking me for help on something and that was fine. Or he'd come into my office and bring his attitude with him and I'd say, "Email me, write it down, but get out of my office now or I'm gonna rip your face off." This went on until a Christmas/New Year meeting. My brother set this meeting up and said we'd go no further until we made peace. I stood up... and made my amends to this man... with his wife present and my own mom and dad present... and he to me. We've been fine ever since. I don't like him much, but I can tolerate him. That was a biggie. It was an amend that was over a month overdue. Sometimes slowly. That sucked and it was my own rage that blocked me from the SOTS.