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Cathy31 · 10-01-2009, 02:12 AM

LOL, I guess if I talked more to my sponsor I could ask her this question, and perhaps I will!

Just wondering...I am just over 3.5 years sober. I have gone through all the 12 steps, I work 10 (not on a daily basis, although I'd like to) and I intend working harder on my meditation. I have no desire to drink, I love my life, I do service, I love my meetings, I have a feeling of peace and wellbeing a lot of the time and the blessing God has given to me are far MORE and BETTER than I could have ever imagined/dreamed of.

I have many friends with great sobriety and I go to them for advice (less now)

I didn't have a sponsor for about 6 months last year, got another one (wonderful woman) but we hardly see one another (when we do it's great she is very wise, helped me with some outstanding step 9 issues) I don't sponsor anyone myself right now.

She is there for me and I guess my question is : am I wrong not to utilise her FULLY - i.e. make an effort to connect and see her weekly. I think I have the answer to the question and what I need to do. I think I need to make a point of meeting with her once/twice a month in person and also TALK to her when I do have problems. I guess it will help her get to know me better and also as I read in my reading this am help to keep me humble by honestly SHARING with someone else.

I suppose writing this I realise that even though I have some wonderful friends in recovery who I CAN go to for advice - I don't. So I guess I am keepnig a lot of myself to myself. I'm very tied up in my relationship (he is also in recovery) and devote a lot of time to nurturing that.

This post has helped me to see what I need to do next!

What are others opininons on 'sponsorship' once you've gone through all the steps?

For me, I FEEL good, but writing this I think has shown that meeting my sponsor once/twice a month could add even more value.

Interested in hearing others' thoughts!

Cathy31
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10-01-2009, 02:12 AM	#1 (permalink)
Cathy31 1 bite&all resistance crumbles Join Date: Oct 2004 Location: IRELAND Posts: 2,160	Necessity of Sponsor after diong the Steps LOL, I guess if I talked more to my sponsor I could ask her this question, and perhaps I will! Just wondering...I am just over 3.5 years sober. I have gone through all the 12 steps, I work 10 (not on a daily basis, although I'd like to) and I intend working harder on my meditation. I have no desire to drink, I love my life, I do service, I love my meetings, I have a feeling of peace and wellbeing a lot of the time and the blessing God has given to me are far MORE and BETTER than I could have ever imagined/dreamed of. I have many friends with great sobriety and I go to them for advice (less now) I didn't have a sponsor for about 6 months last year, got another one (wonderful woman) but we hardly see one another (when we do it's great she is very wise, helped me with some outstanding step 9 issues) I don't sponsor anyone myself right now. She is there for me and I guess my question is : am I wrong not to utilise her FULLY - i.e. make an effort to connect and see her weekly. I think I have the answer to the question and what I need to do. I think I need to make a point of meeting with her once/twice a month in person and also TALK to her when I do have problems. I guess it will help her get to know me better and also as I read in my reading this am help to keep me humble by honestly SHARING with someone else. I suppose writing this I realise that even though I have some wonderful friends in recovery who I CAN go to for advice - I don't. So I guess I am keepnig a lot of myself to myself. I'm very tied up in my relationship (he is also in recovery) and devote a lot of time to nurturing that. This post has helped me to see what I need to do next! What are others opininons on 'sponsorship' once you've gone through all the steps? For me, I FEEL good, but writing this I think has shown that meeting my sponsor once/twice a month could add even more value. Interested in hearing others' thoughts! Cathy31 x __________________ Sober since 22nd March 2006 by the Grace of God and the Programs & Fellowship of AA and NA Life is Beautiful! Fake it til you make it...