[nandm]

First Welcome to SR and our GLBT forum. Glad you are here.

Freya truly said what I would have said only worded it much better........there are not "rules" in AA. Listen to Freya and find someone who has what you want and for your sake and theirs just make sure it is someone you have no sexual interest in. A sponsor is too important in sobriety to not have one just because of the awkwardness of the situation. I have known many women both straight and gay who have had male sponsors and that relationship worked for them. Personally I have always had women sponsors. I have been fortunate that I have not had to deal with a sexual attraction to a sponsor so maybe I have been lucky or maybe I am just too attracted to my partner to even acknowledge the possibility of an attraction, who knows.