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Old 09-30-2009, 11:54 AM
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Originally Posted by queenie88 View Post
i guess i'm having a hard time understanding this. in a romantic relationship, it's unreasonable to have wants or needs? like, the need to be loved, respected, understood by your partner? the need for forgiveness? how are those things so out of line?
Here's how I see it. I have wants, needs, and expectations. But, it is MY job to meet them.

If I am with someone who does not fit, it is my job to look elsewhere. Not their job to do what I want. If I want to be loved, respected, understood, and forgiven, then I must seek out loving, respectable, understanding, forgiving people to be with.

It means accepting others exactly as they are, and then evaluating whether or not they belong in my life.

So, to answer your question, no, I don't think it's out of line to want or need certain things. But, it is out of line to expect a particular person to change who they are to meet those needs. I hope I'm making sense here.............

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