Well, for my birthday I went to Al Anon and it was really refreshing to not feel alone and to admit my misstep about trying to control something I can't control. Previously I would have owned up to this foolish behavior by speaking with the alcoholic I shouldn't be trying to control. Doh, that never worked. He would react the same way he always has, and I would buy into the power struggle, and nothing changed. He's too close to the situation to be rational, or to have even a flickering interest in peace and stability as the outcome TODAY.
It meant so much just hearing the voices of men and women who know because they have learned how to navigate peacefully around what seemed like roadblocks; they have learned how to detach with love.
Daisy, I'm very grateful for you stating the obvious, it really wouldn't have popped into my head as the next logical step this morning unless you'd said it. Thank you!