[evmdimples]

Thanks for the information. I'm finally understanding that it all boils down to how it feels to me; as another SR friend stated: do I feel safe or not? In this case, what I experienced/saw felt inappropriate to me. My concern is for my friend, who is currently this woman's client.

Last sunday my friend and i attended an event hosted by the therapist (celebration of autumnal equinox). In thinking back, the only ones in attendance who had a professional relationship with the therapist are my friend (current client) and myself (former client.) Everyone else was a friend/colleague of the therapist. I think that's where the client/therapist lines become blurred. It's become clear that for me, a therapist is not a friend and the relationship needs to remain professional even outside of the therapy room. After much thinking, I finally decided to express how I felt about the therapist/professional boundaries to my friend, and to use Matt's words, she can decide what to do about it.

The whole incident did mirror my own boundary issues and in fact helped me deal with something this week, me saying no to someone! Now that was hard, because usually I tend to agree to do things I may not want to do. For fear of losing a friend. Or people getting mad at me. Today I exercised my right to say NO! Politely. And I offered to do something else instead, something that did feel right for me.

Recovery in action, gotta luv it!