[freya]

It does sound to me like this woman has some professional boundary issues -- especially if she's making inappropriate and/or personal comments about clients in front of a group and/or other clients.

I've got to say that I personally do not buy into the widely-held patriarchal assumptions about the necessity and healthfulness of a lot of the "rules" about professional behavior and boundaries and on the separation between the personal and the professional. And I like to see thoughtful, careful, attempts to push the envelope in this regard. However, I also recognize that fact that those rules and distinctions have been developed in an attempt to avoid serious and dangerous complications and abuses of power in professional - client relationships, and that any attempt to question and change them must, therefore, include alternative strategies to avoid those same kinds of problems. Unfortunately, I also have personal experience with therapists who have used the "those rules are patriarchal and need to be questioned" as an excuse to throw out the baby with the bathwater and to try to get away with all kinds of truly unethical behavior.

I guess that my gut response, given the info you've provided, is that I personally probably would not necessarily assume that, by itself, asking for a ride to the airport was an issue...but when put in the context of the other behaviors you've mentioned, it does seem to be just one more example of a highly suspicious pattern.

freya