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Originally Posted by liveweyerd  Clay, at your age...the statistics show that you will have sexual thoughts every 8 seconds. LOL I don't quite get that...if it were me by the time I finished the thought it would be time for another one! 
Could it be a side effect of the Welbutrin or anxiety?
It is well known that anxiety often seeks relief through sex.
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It's probably all three to be honest. My sexual yearnings did go up when I started the Wellbutrin.
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I don't know what is a distraction for you....I get lost in books when I want to and that works for me...that is my escape route and diversion when I need it and also just something I love. Whatever it is for you, it will have to be something that takes ALL your attention.
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I suppose writing is that way for me, but that's the same problem I can't get a date, or even a number: anxiety. The writing's easier to get over, I just make it more of a big deal than it is, and at least there's no rejection.
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I don't see your weight, your illness of depression (which is common and being treated) and other factors as making you unavailable for dating, it is your decision not to date.
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Well I'm less likely than a fit guy to get the type of woman I'm attracted to, which I know means I need to lower my standards which I have. It's just the thought of approaching a woman to talk to to hopefully hit it off almost makes me nauseous from anxiety. I can't even approach someone for a networking connection. I'm trying the free dating sites right now because I can't afford Match.com but nothing's really happening because someone on this forum said most people on free sites don't take dating too serious. It's definitely more than my decision not to date. I have to be attractive too, and have money and a job. I don't know any woman who would want to date a guy who's unemployed and broke. That's what I'm getting at, I want these yearnings for a relationship to go away and they won't. It's stressful and irritating.
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So, a post of non-answers! LOL
i just wanted to say that your longings are normal. And you are a cool guy.
best wishes,
live
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I know they're normal, I just want them to stop!
I guess I just need to be more patient and try to find some more self-esteem and confidence, which is an uphill battle.