[evmdimples]

This is a bit convoluted as I try to unravel my thoughts.

I've been bothered about a couple of things that came up recently with someone who used to be my therapist. Now she's a friend's therapist. I've been wondering about some things that happened in a group activity she (therapist) was leading recently, that seemed highly innapropriate, i.e. she was trying to impose her will on the group (everybody noticed this and just rolled their eyes, one person stormed off, she made an inappropriate comment about my financial standing, etc); the next day, she was trying to impose her will on my friend and I while we were doing her a favor (driving her to the airport). Now I'm realizing, maybe this is the first boundary that's been breached? The client/therapist relationship? Is it appropriate for a therapist to ask a client to be their ride to the airport? I'm sensing this is the first boundary that's been broken. No wonder other boundaries were being broken left and right recently. I don't believe any therapist I've ever dealt with has ever made themselves available to me outside of therapy sessions; quite frankly, I now see why that's not a good thing. We got to see some of her issues and I'm guessing that's not a good thing for a client to see in her therapist! From this experience comes another question: how do you effectively deal with someone who wants to impose their will on you? Is this indicative of unhealthy boundaries, people overstepping boundaries and ok to walk away from these types of people? As a codependent, I tend to try and make nice to the point that it is damaging to me. I'm trying to become better at distinguishing inappropriate behaviors and establishing appropriate boundaries for myself.

Thoughts/suggestions please?
Thanks!