Clay, at your age...the statistics show that you will have sexual thoughts every 8 seconds. LOL I don't quite get that...if it were me by the time I finished the thought it would be time for another one!
Could it be a side effect of the Welbutrin or anxiety?
It is well known that anxiety often seeks relief through sex.
Or perhaps these are just very normal longings.
I don't know what is a distraction for you....I get lost in books when I want to and that works for me...that is my escape route and diversion when I need it and also just something I love. Whatever it is for you, it will have to be something that takes ALL your attention.
I don't see your weight, your illness of depression (which is common and being treated) and other factors as making you unavailable for dating, it is your decision not to date.
So, a post of non-answers! LOL
i just wanted to say that your longings are normal. And you are a cool guy.
best wishes,
live