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Im getting married on October 25, and my soon to be husband is an Alcoholic with 41/2 years of soberiy and works a strong program.
We have issues, of course... but he is also the most amazing man I have ever had a relationship with... Yes there is a chance the could relasp and start drinking again. If I dwell on that I could drive myself crazy... we have been dating 3 years now and I have never met another that I respected, Love and felt safer with... strange huh?? LOL
I could meet a normi tommrow and he could end up becoming an alcoholic... or something else... Today I try to live life on lifes terms... I keep working my program, stay real and in the present... I know my boundries and my tolerance level.... I know what a healthy relationship looks like and I keep the focus on myself... I let him work his own program and when issues come up I feel confident we will be able to work them out with love and tolerance...
For me life has never come with guarentees ... Today most of my strengh comes from God (my higher power) and I trust in him that Im on the right path... I try to stay in tune with him and pray for his will... most of all I just have faith... not that things will be perfect but that I have the relationship with God and myself to know that no matter what .... I will be ok.
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Cynay
"Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one's definition of your life; define yourself."
Harvey Fierstein
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