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Originally Posted by ClayTheScribe  Hi there,
Welcome to SR. There are many great helpful and kind people here.
Are you being treated for your sleep apnea? If not, your depression will not get better until you have quality sleep. Sleep apnea almost drove me to suicide a few years ago--it's not something to take lightly. I would also recommend you exercise or get some kind of physical activity during the day, though I know it must be hard have arthritis. This gets your endorphins running and helps lift the depression some. Do nice things for yourself.
From what I've studied and from what people have said here, the best thing you can do for your husband's drinking is to take care of yourself and go to AlAnon meetings. Maybe stress to him how his drinking is negatively impacting your relationship and that it's hurting you. Though the alcoholism will do anything to defend itself. He may just have to hit bottom, I just hope it's not when he's driving.
Good luck and take care. |
yea I am being treated for the apnea - I sleep every night with a cpap machine. I try to exercise - I have a recumbent bike that I was on the other day. I do things around the house - well what I can without help. The weather plays a huge effect on my attitude/outlook. Forunately we've had some really nice weather the last couple of days, so I've felt pretty good - just had some disturbing dreams. I'm trying to get back into my crafts a little at a time - that has always helped me in the past when I'm stressed or depressed. I cross-stitch and crochet. I'm not home completely alone either - we have 2 dogs - I love them to death and the unconditional love they give me is so much. We have a Bichon - Chucky 8 yrs old and then Sam is supposed to be a toy poodle but is more toward the miniture - he looks like a holstein cow {black and white} he's 3 yrs old. They follow me every where.
My husband hasn't been drinking much this past week. He has hit rock bottom in the past before he was with me. His last marriage - she kicked him out, he lived on the streets - got into drugs and alcohol. He was robbed and stabbed - almost died. He had some good people come into his life and he got off the drugs - been clean from that for 5 or more years now. He doesn't drink and drive because he doesn't want to lose his license or hurt anyone. I'm the one that makes sure that he or if I'm with him - get home safe. I've always been the responsible one which is a good thing.