[ClayTheScribe]

Hi there,

Welcome to SR. There are many great helpful and kind people here.

Are you being treated for your sleep apnea? If not, your depression will not get better until you have quality sleep. Sleep apnea almost drove me to suicide a few years ago--it's not something to take lightly. I would also recommend you exercise or get some kind of physical activity during the day, though I know it must be hard have arthritis. This gets your endorphins running and helps lift the depression some. Do nice things for yourself.

From what I've studied and from what people have said here, the best thing you can do for your husband's drinking is to take care of yourself and go to AlAnon meetings. Maybe stress to him how his drinking is negatively impacting your relationship and that it's hurting you. Though the alcoholism will do anything to defend itself. He may just have to hit bottom, I just hope it's not when he's driving.

Good luck and take care.