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Well...
I had been married nearly 15 years before my last time in treatment. By that logic (said sponsor's logic), I should have divorced my wife when newly in recovery. I'm glad I didn't. Our marriage was still intact, we had/have a young son who is now 4, and divorcing would have put undue burden on me, my wife, and my son.
My understanding (as others have said) is no major life changes in the first year, including no NEW relationships. Existing relationships don't fall into that category. I will say that existing, toxic relationships may need to be evaluated for a different reason. Not suggesting your relationship is toxic. In addition, severing an existing relationship can go against the sentiment of no changes as that would be a change.
I'll also add that I hear of this kind of thing a lot. Sometimes recommendations can get sort of mixed up as they are passed on from sponsor to sponsee and so on.
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