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Originally Posted by preta  Check out the sobriety dates of people when they post. If someone hasnt been sober three months and are trashing AA, maybe their advice isnt the best to be taking. Stick with the winners for sure. |
This is just offensive. I might still be what you would call a "loser", but that doesn't make my contributions invalid. I don't consider it to be "trashing AA" to simply report my experiences with it. I wish more steppers would be compassionate enough to consider that, while maybe what they did worked for them, it doesn't work for everybody. There is no one-size-fits-all solution.
If it's okay to say "AA worked for me" then it should also be okay to say "AA
didn't work for me". You can talk about the successes, but I think it's dishonest to leave out the (far greater) numbers of those who failed using the same method. I know, I know - if AA doesn't work for you then you must not be a "winner" or you obviously didn't try. That's just zealotry, and it doesn't help anyone.
As this relates to the thread: There's plenty of evidence to suggest that rigidity to the program (including sponsorship) is no guarantee of success and there's plenty of evidence to suggest that a lack of rigidity is no guarantee of failure.