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Old 09-15-2009, 09:35 PM   #3 (permalink)
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By the programs standards, no. There is nothing in the Alcoholics Anonymous big book describing how people cannot be in a relationship in the first year, etc. The program of AA comes from this book.
There is a trend in AA that people should not be involved in a relationship in the first year, but I think the idea is that newcomers shouldnt be sniffing around other newcomers or running around places trying to meet women. If you're already in an established relationship, and your supportive of him - even in the awful state he's probably in - I see no reason for a sponsor to stick his nose where it doesnt belong.
The duty of a sponsor is to share his experience with alcoholism, and to walk the newcomer through the big book and the twelve steps. Thats it! Sometimes sponsors try to micromanage their sponsees, and IMO this is often a power trip.
So let me get off my soap box before I get in trouble...
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