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Love22 · 09-15-2009, 08:22 PM

If the gentleman who I am/was dating and I (who is currently a bit over 100 days sober) were dating before he went into AA. And, I (who does not drink, never did drink or drug) am the one who encouraged him going into AA in addition to being a positive, supportive influence ... is it odd that my significant other's sponsor would, still, tell him to not be in a relationship with me for his first year in the program? Evidentally, his sponsor told him he focused way too much on our relationship and if I were to change my mind about the relationship, etc etc ... it could very well compromise his sobriety. In the meantime, he needs to be spending that time on himself and his steps opposed to on the relationship. Of course, I totally understand this... but I still need/want/would like to know if this makes sense by the program's standards...

09-15-2009, 08:22 PM	#1 (permalink)
Love22 Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Jacksonville, Florida Posts: 3	Question. Existing Relationship in 1st Year If the gentleman who I am/was dating and I (who is currently a bit over 100 days sober) were dating before he went into AA. And, I (who does not drink, never did drink or drug) am the one who encouraged him going into AA in addition to being a positive, supportive influence ... is it odd that my significant other's sponsor would, still, tell him to not be in a relationship with me for his first year in the program? Evidentally, his sponsor told him he focused way too much on our relationship and if I were to change my mind about the relationship, etc etc ... it could very well compromise his sobriety. In the meantime, he needs to be spending that time on himself and his steps opposed to on the relationship. Of course, I totally understand this... but I still need/want/would like to know if this makes sense by the program's standards...