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Inquisitive7 · 09-13-2009, 12:40 PM

Thanks for your reply, suki44883....going through this forum I realize there are a lot of threads with a similar subject "help, dating someone with addictions" - hahaha - so thanks for responding. Everyone probably gets tired of these posts. I have read some of those posts to help answer some of my question.

Still, I am wondering from you or others if the behaviors I listed out are directly related to addictions or some are just personality traits - maybe it is hard to separate the two out though.

I tried to be as understanding as I could with him. I did talk with him about his addictions, but always felt like I was walking on eggshells doing so. I was also fearful about where he was at in his recovery and would he relapse? He never understood how I felt coming as someone outside the arena of addiction. It was very scary to me to feel like my emotional investment in him could totally be obliterated at any moment.

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Inquisitive7 Member Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Wherever I turn my attention Posts: 57	Thanks for your reply, suki44883....going through this forum I realize there are a lot of threads with a similar subject "help, dating someone with addictions" - hahaha - so thanks for responding. Everyone probably gets tired of these posts. I have read some of those posts to help answer some of my question. Still, I am wondering from you or others if the behaviors I listed out are directly related to addictions or some are just personality traits - maybe it is hard to separate the two out though. I tried to be as understanding as I could with him. I did talk with him about his addictions, but always felt like I was walking on eggshells doing so. I was also fearful about where he was at in his recovery and would he relapse? He never understood how I felt coming as someone outside the arena of addiction. It was very scary to me to feel like my emotional investment in him could totally be obliterated at any moment.