[suki44883]

Many people who are insecure tend to overcompensate and come across as overbearing or narcissistic and sometimes, even control freaks. This is something that is deep down inside them and not in any way your fault, or caused by anything you did. Drinking or using drugs is just a way for them to cope with their own demons. Until they get help for the underlying cause of their addictions, they are pretty much going to continue acting as they currently do. You will drive yourself mad trying to understand them. It's best to take care of yourself and let them decide when and if to get help for themselves. I'm sorry you had to go through that, but keep taking care of you and don't let the next guy push you into something that you really aren't ready or suited for.