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Hi,

I was hoping for feedback on my current situation:
Alcoholic, married 11 years, sober 1 year, 2 kids. Out of a job nine months.

Since sobriety, my wife has been quite angry with me and is now reevaluating our relationship. Issues include:
A) why didn't I get sober earlier
B) I'm not what she expected sober, maybe I'm just a nasty person
C) At least I used to be a provider, but now I've failed at even that.
D) She's been depressed, but her depression lifted when the counsellor suggested she consider divorce.
E) due to the financial stress, we have considered selling the family house, and may still have to. This would be a good opportunity for us to part ways.
F) she's suffered enough with raising kids and my alcoholism, she wants the next phase of her life to be different.

We saw a relationship counsellor, who thought she couldn't help: my wife needed to work through her anger and decide whether to forgive me, while I needed to continue working on my recovery and also get my confidence back through a job.

I haven't quite accepted this situation, as I feel my life is falling apart (lost the job, and may be on track to lose wife, kids, house).

There's a lot I can't do about the situation, and I think even if I do the right thing (whatever that is), the dreaded prospect of losing everything is still a possibility.

I'm taking actions on the job front (with no result), and am continuing to work on my recovery, but I don't know what to do on the marriage front, outside of being patient hoping for the best (whilst dreading the worst).

Any suggestions?