Loss is something we never "get over"
We can accept
We can become accustomed
We can feel less "numb"
We can go on without
We live on.
The loved one is and always will be a part of us. We do not have to let them go. We need a healthy relationship with them, as we are alive and they are in another plane.
How do we do that? Here is a poem that sums it up:
“Death is nothing at all. It does not count. I have only slipped away into the next room. Nothing has happened. Everything remains exactly as it was. I am I, and you are you, and the old life that we lived so fondly together is untouched, unchanged. Whatever we were to each other, that we are still. Call me by the old familiar name. Speak of me in the easy way which you always used. Put no difference into your tone. Wear no forced air of solemnity or sorrow. Laugh as we always laughed at the little jokes that we enjoyed together. Play, smile, think of me, pray for me. Let my name be ever the household word that it always was. Let it be spoken without an effort, without the ghost of a shadow upon it. Life means all that it ever meant. It is the same as it ever was. There is absolute and unbroken continuity. What is this death but a negligible accident? Why should I be out of mind because I am out of sight? I am but waiting for you, for an interval, somewhere very near, just round the corner. All is well."
Henry Scott Holland
My hearfelt blessings to you both and any dear person that has lost a child or loved one....Peace to you all.