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evmdimples · 08-31-2009, 07:58 AM

Thank you Freya, for pointing me in the right direction. I got turned around in the storm of my emotions and had lost my bearings!

I am on step 4. And this thread was definitely a step 4 and possibly 5, since I've shared it with someone else.

Last night I realized that in fact I don't have anyone to call (Coda friends), and that's something I'm going to have to work on. (In coda it's difficult to find sponsors, given the nature of the problem. Most people get sponsors in sister fellowships.)

I did however stay the course this weekend, i.e. feel the feelings and not act on them. And as usual during that type of exercise, painful as it is, I uncovered what's really behind all this. It's my deeply rooted fear of abandonment. Something to work on. I know it's a childhood fear and nothing to do with the here and now. Current circumstances are bringing it up (lack of closure from a recent breakup.) Now I know that I need to do some serious repair work on my emotional foundation. But I don't know how to even start. I welcome words of wisdom on this matter. Meanwhile, I will let go and let HP.

Again, thanks for your words Freya, they were exactly what I needed to hear to get back on track.

08-31-2009, 07:58 AM	#4 (permalink)
evmdimples Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: FL Posts: 194	Thank you Freya, for pointing me in the right direction. I got turned around in the storm of my emotions and had lost my bearings! I am on step 4. And this thread was definitely a step 4 and possibly 5, since I've shared it with someone else. Last night I realized that in fact I don't have anyone to call (Coda friends), and that's something I'm going to have to work on. (In coda it's difficult to find sponsors, given the nature of the problem. Most people get sponsors in sister fellowships.) I did however stay the course this weekend, i.e. feel the feelings and not act on them. And as usual during that type of exercise, painful as it is, I uncovered what's really behind all this. It's my deeply rooted fear of abandonment. Something to work on. I know it's a childhood fear and nothing to do with the here and now. Current circumstances are bringing it up (lack of closure from a recent breakup.) Now I know that I need to do some serious repair work on my emotional foundation. But I don't know how to even start. I welcome words of wisdom on this matter. Meanwhile, I will let go and let HP. Again, thanks for your words Freya, they were exactly what I needed to hear to get back on track. __________________ To err is human, to forgive divine.