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MagicMan08 · 08-31-2009, 12:48 AM

Its just I feel if I don't assert myself and work on US...things will stay the same. And if she is not willing to face the family and friends with fear of me hurting her....it will always be that way, and I will lose.

I feel I should talk to her in person about this, and that if she is not ready to commit, she isn't ready to have me. Especially if she is texting and thinking about going out with other guys. Why prolong the pain and probability of getting hurt. I feel it will probably end up with me being alone, but it is for the best then. I have to assert myself, and move on if it will always be this way in her eyes.

I plan on hitting some good meetings this week, and working out pretty hard in the gym. There are good people out there for all of us, and I can't sit around and let her see other people while she sees if I am good enough for her. She can't have me and do that too.

What do you all think?

08-31-2009, 12:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
MagicMan08 Helping Others, Helps Me Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Minnesota Posts: 471	Its just I feel if I don't assert myself and work on US...things will stay the same. And if she is not willing to face the family and friends with fear of me hurting her....it will always be that way, and I will lose. I feel I should talk to her in person about this, and that if she is not ready to commit, she isn't ready to have me. Especially if she is texting and thinking about going out with other guys. Why prolong the pain and probability of getting hurt. I feel it will probably end up with me being alone, but it is for the best then. I have to assert myself, and move on if it will always be this way in her eyes. I plan on hitting some good meetings this week, and working out pretty hard in the gym. There are good people out there for all of us, and I can't sit around and let her see other people while she sees if I am good enough for her. She can't have me and do that too. What do you all think? __________________ "Never give up. You will never know how many people are really there that care and are pulling for you to come out of this on top." -MagicMan08 I am a good guy who just wants to live a sober, happy, stress free life.