[MagicMan08]

My siginificant other and I have been through a lot as a result of my alcoholism. Recently we separated and she saw someone else. Which I knew about, and now we are seeing each other again.

The problem is this. Her friends, coworkers,, and loved ones witnessed first hand the pain and greif I caused her when I would relapse and make poor choices while actively drinking. So they don't fully support her seeing me and us being together. Well, I am sober now (and working the steps and practicing life in recovery) and would like to be together with Sara. Since we have been eeing each other again, I feel the biggest thing holder her and I back from freedom together is her worrying about being made to feel bad and that she is being stupid by being together. So she is not telling everyone we are seeing each other and back together again. (not bf and gf yet)

My situation is as follows. Today I call and speak with her and she mentions this guy who has been texting her and such wants to hang out and catch up from 2 years ago. Now this throws up huge red flags, as someone who is totally interested in me would not really be very interested in texting him back much less wanting to hang out. But I feel the stigma of us being together is much harder than simply finding someone new, and that she feels we cannor go do everything that they can because I am in recovery.

So I am at a point where I feel she needs to commit to being with me and working through this family and friends thing, otherwise I need to distance myself if she is not willing to commit to working this out for us. I feel this stigma is causing her great pain and if she is 50/50 on the fence and thinking about facing that stigma w friends and family alone she won't do it. I know I wouldn't want to. And someone new is easier. We have been seeing each other for about 5 years. And I am not going to sit around while she goes and hangs out with other guys (she said I cannot tag along) .