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Early on my sponsor pointed out a reading to me from As Bill See's It that alks about setting out a pail of water and talking to the new guy about how good it is, showing him that we drink from it. But we can't force him to drink it, but we don't ever take the pail away either. Jim was very clear with me on our first meeting that if I didn't stay he wouldn't lose sleep over it, he'd find another alcoholic to work with. I do the same thing with my guys. I get very clear on what we are about to do so that there are no misunderstandings. I like meeting weekly until we reach instructions for inventory. After that we have nothing more to meet for until 5th stepping. I make a judgement on willingness very early on. Are you calling and are you showing up? I put into it what they put into it. And I do suggest daily calls. I don't demand it though. I wasn't connected to God early on and quite frankly I can't recall ever hearing someone say that they were. And my experience is that I'd better get connected to something or someone other than my own head, until I can. The reality is, if someone isn't willing to sit across the table from me and start with the title page, there really isn't much progress that can be made. Those are the ones that I see the novelty of AA wear of pretty quickly and they just go away.
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