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What I do is ask as well, "are you willing to go to any lengths" and if they say "Yes" off we go.
It soon becomes apparent whether they are serious or not, if they are not serious, I remain "available" but if they don't "formally" work the step when we come to it reading in the BB our "meetings" get put on hold, since the truth is we don't have too much to talk about other then the steps after a certain point. I am not a marriage counselor, banker or therapist.
The truth of the matter is I can usually tell if someone is serious within our first three meetings if not before.
A whole crew of us got sober together, and every single one of us grabbed on with both hands, went to meetings, and worked the steps to the best of our ability as fast as we could, while still being thorough.
I need to remember that not everyone shows up with that sort of willingness. There is a reason we still remain sober friends nearly twenty years later. I can't "push" people to do the steps, I can only remain available to those are ready, willing and able, and not alienate the ones that aren't so I can of service if they should decide to get willing.
I try to use "attraction not promotion" in sponsoring guys
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