[Cynay]

Hello and I'm sorry your having such a hard time with the kids, teen are such a struggle.

When my daughter turned 14 I had nothing but hard times with her, I Actully ended up at one point doing what you decribed and drove her to the airport and put her on a and to her fathers, it was the hardest thing I have ever done and after that I accepted a job in another state living in the employers apt so I did not have a home for her to come back to for a year. Sometimes tough love is the only thing left. Today I can look back and say that was the smartest thing I have ever done.

I have to be honest here and say it was just as much my fault if not more that we had so many issues. Not only did I not set the boundries but I never enforced the ones I did set, kids like most people treat us how we have taught them to treat us, I let her get away with WAY too much because it was too hard and too much work to do otherwise. I wish I had found CoDA along time ago.

However today we are doing better, mostly because I work my program, try to keep my side clean. Today I set my boundries and then follow through with it. I say what I mean and follow through, no more idle threats, and I'm finding that the more I respect myself the mor