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"enforcement" is the whole problem. I CAN'T enforce the rules unless I stand guard at the doors all night to prevent dk from leaving the house. I can't enforce the rules unless I put a lock on the towel cabinet to keep dk from using ten towels a week. I can't enforce the rules when dk breaks them when my back is turned. I'd have tohire an armed guard to enforce rules in this house. So I'll just put locks on everything and pray nothing bad happens to dk due to her refusal to submit to my authority.

This is a problem without a solution, except just to ignore them and go about my merry way without them. Dk WILL NOT live with her dad, due to his strictness. I would have to literally 'hogtie' her and drag her to his car to get her to go there... I kid you not.

I hope your kids don't do to you what mine have done to me when they become teens... Makes me wish desperately that I'd stopped having kids after the first one...