[cassandra2]

Welcome.

My RABF sometimes says things about using drugs or his urges that he gets and I too find myself speechless. I usually say NOTHING. Why? you ask. I say nothing because this is HIS problem to work out. NOTHING I say is gonna KEEP him clean or FORCE him to use. Usually (for him) he is processing a good thought about when he was using (like it was FUN) then reality hits him and he starts to think about all the consequences that came along with using drugs. But that is HIS thought process to handle NOT MINE.

As far as the moods go.....Well just like any other person bad moods happen. When it does for others I usually step back and stay out of their way. Its been my experience that the more you ask "whats wrong" or "what can I do to help you" is just a way of trying to control another person. Its up to everyone to choose what type of mood they will stay in. I dont have any control over another person so why try to "help" them feel better. Best thing you can do is to go get busy doing something else he will rejoin you when the mood passes. It has nothing to do with you......

Hope that helps. Take care....