[Cynay]

Welcome, it's good to meet you and I will try to be gentle and explin my thoughts And views about this subject, I'm glad to hear you have some time around the program.

It has been my expedience that to start a relationship in the first year of recovery can be fatal to both of you.

Whatt do you think about being friends for the next six months or so? For me it was just not. A good way to start a relationship and I wish I had listened to my sponsor. I'm a Codie and started in alanon and to be very honest I was not ready to be in a relationship till After my first year and working my steps. What are your sponsors suggestions?

Most will tell you not to make any major changes in the first year, especially relationships and there is a really good reason for that. Relationship take two healthy and whole people and I have not personally met a healthy alcoholic that has only six months sober.

I'm not trying to be mean but if you really believe this guy could be the one, my thought would be give him and yourself the time and resources to actually stand a chance of making it. Even with my fiancé having 4 1/2 years and both of us working a strong program it's not an easy relationship. For me it is more then worth it, but not alway easy and relationships in recover have special issues.