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navysteve · 08-14-2009, 12:22 PM

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My first 8th step list was basically taken directly from my fourth step. Definitely not ALL the people I had harmed. But the way I see it is when I am cleaning up a mess I start with the big stuff first and that is exactly what I did. With subsequent 8th step lists I incorporate the practice of inventory. I also look for behavior patterns on my part. This was essential particularly in my relationships with women. I got married and divorced sober. Afterwards I kept finding myself with the same type of women ( who were bad for me) I tried the ever so popular "don't date anyone in AA" philosophy. I just found sick women outside the rooms. Then I blamed my picker ( ever heard that one- I have a bad picker= its not my fault). Then after a few repeat 4th and 5th steps I noticed I was having to make repeat amends to different people, so the 8th step took on a new meaning for me.

08-14-2009, 12:22 PM	#8 (permalink)
navysteve Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 1,870	24, My first 8th step list was basically taken directly from my fourth step. Definitely not ALL the people I had harmed. But the way I see it is when I am cleaning up a mess I start with the big stuff first and that is exactly what I did. With subsequent 8th step lists I incorporate the practice of inventory. I also look for behavior patterns on my part. This was essential particularly in my relationships with women. I got married and divorced sober. Afterwards I kept finding myself with the same type of women ( who were bad for me) I tried the ever so popular "don't date anyone in AA" philosophy. I just found sick women outside the rooms. Then I blamed my picker ( ever heard that one- I have a bad picker= its not my fault). Then after a few repeat 4th and 5th steps I noticed I was having to make repeat amends to different people, so the 8th step took on a new meaning for me.