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Hi eveyone, i have been reading on here for a little over a year...my story.

I have been married to RAH for going on 10 years...really didn't have many problems until the last 4 yrs when I went and got a second job he started to drink more..he was mostely a quiet at home drinker...one morning he almost wrecked his bike and decided to go to rehab and get sober. well he met a woman in rehab and they would e-mail and talk on the phone ( outside of course ) until he made a comment while we were out that he was e-mailing a girl and a friend so it was his girlfriend. So I started to read those e-mails...they talked about the walks and the outings they went on..and that the people from the rehab place were to meet at a bon-fire and he was to pick her up..and thanks for the helmet..well I went off..of course I didn't understand and he could only get help from other AA people. I called his sponser at the time and he put a stop to that meeting..and the e-mails still going on...after a e-video telling her he would see her in 2009 that I found..I put a stop to the whole friend thing..5 months later he finally starts staying home on the weekends with me instead of going to 8 meetings a week because someone told him why i was so angry...because before he was drunk and now he is never there...So we are getting along better now but no sex for over a year and jus started telling me he loves me and some hugs... he just did his 4th step...now my questions..

How do I get over the e-mails.
How do I believe that he means what he says or is he just telling me what someone told him to do and say.
I want to know what happen in Rehab. when can I ask?
Why is AA and what happens so secret to the spouse?

I use to go to AA with him until I started to get to know the woman now I don't even get asked to go.
So after a year it is still screwed up...when does it get better???

I am rambling.. thanks for your input :praying