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smacked · 08-11-2009, 12:51 PM

I just wanted to say this..

Most mental health "issues" are chronic and lifelong conditions.. it's more about managing day to day with appropriate treatment and choices.

I don't know about his issues, or what made up his emotional 'makeup', scientists have been debating the nature versus nurture issue for eons and haven't come up with any conclusions yet. A lot of mental illnesses are thought to be a combination of biogenical (nature) and environmental (nurture) epidemiology.

ALL of that aside, are you protecting yourself? Regardless of any reasons behind his addictive or violent behaviors.. are they ok with you? A lot of people have been through a hell worse than him, and have never hit, threatened, or become dependent on any drugs or alcohol. A lot of us have. Your job in this is YOU... where are your boundaries? What is ok with you, and not ok with you? Does giving him excuses for any of his actions make them any more 'ok' to you?

I live with a lot of mental health diagnoses, but they aren't my life, or excuses to mistreat people, stay addicted to substances, or live in an irresponsible way. How I live my life is my decision, and it is also his..

I doubt that was helpful, and I honestly don't know what you're looking for by way of advice or info.. but I noticed that no one had answered so I figured I'd share a little.

08-11-2009, 12:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
smacked Heathen Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: La La Land, USA Posts: 2,349	I just wanted to say this.. Most mental health "issues" are chronic and lifelong conditions.. it's more about managing day to day with appropriate treatment and choices. I don't know about his issues, or what made up his emotional 'makeup', scientists have been debating the nature versus nurture issue for eons and haven't come up with any conclusions yet. A lot of mental illnesses are thought to be a combination of biogenical (nature) and environmental (nurture) epidemiology. ALL of that aside, are you protecting yourself? Regardless of any reasons behind his addictive or violent behaviors.. are they ok with you? A lot of people have been through a hell worse than him, and have never hit, threatened, or become dependent on any drugs or alcohol. A lot of us have. Your job in this is YOU... where are your boundaries? What is ok with you, and not ok with you? Does giving him excuses for any of his actions make them any more 'ok' to you? I live with a lot of mental health diagnoses, but they aren't my life, or excuses to mistreat people, stay addicted to substances, or live in an irresponsible way. How I live my life is my decision, and it is also his.. I doubt that was helpful, and I honestly don't know what you're looking for by way of advice or info.. but I noticed that no one had answered so I figured I'd share a little.