hey bro, havent gotten to talk much with ya but welcome to sr and congrats on finishing school and getting sober.
Don't be ashamed about the virginity thing, its not a big deal at all. When you meet the right person they wont judge or look down upon you for that. Being that my DOC was heroin, the drug would completely turn my sex drive to less than zero, Anne Hathaway coulda been at my door and I would have turned her away. Once getting sober it came flooding back in, I felt like I was 13 again. THe program and people 'suggest' no relationships or sex for 1 year because that is a major change in your life. Some people are able to handle relationships or sex during that initial year of sobriety fine. You could be one of them.
If you decide however that you want to continue to wait until after one year of sobriety that is good as well. As for keeping the urges at bay...heh, I would think that stopping jacking off all together would only increase urges. Atleast after you masturbate you go a few hours being content and not thinking about sex so much. I feel like sex would be on my mind 24/7 if I wasnt sexually active or masturbating.
My advice ? Brazzers . com works wonders
stay safe bro ~~ Scott